I suspect that all that invasive questioning in the pre-assessment was intended to goad you a little bit. The assessor (pre-assessor?) was likely looking at your style of communication, eye movements, body language, signs of stimming behaviors.
That’s not to excuse him. The man was/is a twit (particularly so for liking Trump…his comment sounds like the old saw about Hitler making the trains run on time).
I once had a cardiologist go off script and get into my business, making assumptions and judging me. I looked him in the eye and told him to get back to the purpose of the visit, which was my heart’s abnormal beats. He blanched, but he did correct his behavior. I’m used to working with dogs — fifty years of that. The same skills can be used on men. 😄
I spent all the time looking out of the window, I was constantly fiddling with my hair tie and giggling my legs, I sat turned away from him with my legs under the desk to create a barrier between us, I told him I didn’t understand and was confused, I laid my head on the desk in confusion. It’s not actually ethical for him to have treated me this way. None of the questioning was what it should have been according to other sources. I won’t go into it too much as there are more parts to the story. But basically his attitude and the way he treated me was ethically wrong.
Thank you. On reflection I should have walked out. I didn’t feel safe, and it made me incredibly discombobulated. But I didn’t think of it at the time.
This all makes perfect sense to an American who has had to navigate a change in private insurance.
I really feel for you. At least this humiliation was free.
I suspect that all that invasive questioning in the pre-assessment was intended to goad you a little bit. The assessor (pre-assessor?) was likely looking at your style of communication, eye movements, body language, signs of stimming behaviors.
That’s not to excuse him. The man was/is a twit (particularly so for liking Trump…his comment sounds like the old saw about Hitler making the trains run on time).
I once had a cardiologist go off script and get into my business, making assumptions and judging me. I looked him in the eye and told him to get back to the purpose of the visit, which was my heart’s abnormal beats. He blanched, but he did correct his behavior. I’m used to working with dogs — fifty years of that. The same skills can be used on men. 😄
What a knob of an assessor!
Indeed. Perfect word for him.
I spent all the time looking out of the window, I was constantly fiddling with my hair tie and giggling my legs, I sat turned away from him with my legs under the desk to create a barrier between us, I told him I didn’t understand and was confused, I laid my head on the desk in confusion. It’s not actually ethical for him to have treated me this way. None of the questioning was what it should have been according to other sources. I won’t go into it too much as there are more parts to the story. But basically his attitude and the way he treated me was ethically wrong.
I agree. It sounds abusive.
Oh my! I can't believe that is what "professional" entails. I am so sorry you had to endure that twit for 3 hours.
Thank you. On reflection I should have walked out. I didn’t feel safe, and it made me incredibly discombobulated. But I didn’t think of it at the time.
I understand. It usually takes me time to reflect and parse what happened.
Jeez, that does nothing to encourage me to go for a formal assessment.
Oh you just have to tick all the boxes
What do you mean 'tick the boxes'- I'm ADHD FFS!
Have you not read this saga before? Oh it goes on. Next instalment next week.
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